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Louise Tilbrook ✨'s avatar

Such a brilliant piece and you are so right. For me, leaving behind my people pleasing tendencies is still a work in progress but as you say, if you aren't happy with yourself you can't expect anyone else to be either.

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Fabienne Mannherz's avatar

You are really writing from your heart hear. It is so pure and relatable!

One aspect is also that by always accomodate the - what we assume to be - expectations of others and never share our own needs, we in fact might come accross as "distant" or "superior". People have an innate desire to be there for others. To make them happy. But by giving our all to please everyone around us, we also withhold the chance to give something back to us. Hence, we never are able to make the deep connections and actually FEEL LIKED AND LOVED the way we long so deeply for.

Letting go of the people pleasing is not only to do less pleasing (since this kind of stems from the resentment building up), but genuinely make place for sharing our own needs and how other "can please us".

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